I am a 41-year-old woman and something is bothering me that I would like to share with you. I have one daughter and she is 18 years old. She prefers to live with her grandmother. I am not worried about that because it was my grandmother who had her from the time when she was a baby, and I had to go and work to support her. Her father did not help me much.
And every time I wanted money for her, I had to agree to have sex with him. One time when I went to see him to get some money, the man held me down and I decided to fight. He burst my underwear and had his way. That night I had to go on the bus without any underwear. Pastor, this man was good to me. He was married but his wife died. He was a strong man and I really loved him. But every time Christmas is coming up, I remember what happened. My mother and daughter lived in the country so I planned to go down and spend Christmas with them. I told this man I will see him after Christmas.
He said I should come to stay with him before I leave, so I agreed to go. I cooked for him and I made sure that the house was clean. He said friends were coming over to stay with him for Christmas. 15,000 and told me that was all he could afford. We had sex that night and I left the following day. I promised that I would call him. I called him when I got home and told him I had reached down safely.
On Christmas Day I called him, and on Boxing Day. A few days after Boxing Day, he had a heart attack and he never recovered. I have bad luck with men. This man was everything to me and now he is gone. So whenever Christmas comes around, I miss this man so much and I cry. He did not leave anything for me. Everything was left for his three children.
But one of his daughters found a note on a New Year’s card he bought for me and she gave it to me. I asked her how she knew about me and she said she saw my name and number in his diary. Sometimes I wonder if I should have spent the Christmas with him, and go to my mother for the new year. You must be a very strong woman. You were able to fight off your child’s father. Perhaps I should commend you for being determined not to allow him to use you as he pleased. I am sure you are aware that some men who have children have always insisted that if the women want support for the children, they have to go to bed with them.